Avoid making comparisons from "summary" of How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Comparing yourself to someone else will not add any real value to your life. It doesn’t matter if the other person has more money, a bigger career promotion or more appealing looks than you. Everyone’s journey is unique and individual development should be the focus.

Staying away from comparing yourself to somebody else could meaningfully enhance your resilience and strength during challenging times. For example, when something bad happens don’t compare your ability to cope with it compared to somebody else. Find ways to manage your own feelings and emotions with support of your family and friends.

Instead of constantly making comparisons with others, it’s better to strive towards personal goals and aspirations. You can learn from other people’s experiences, but avoid putting too much emphasis on how well they seem to have done in comparison to you.

Comparison with ourselves can help us identify our weaknesses and strong points so that we can focus better on self-development, however it becomes unproductive when continuously focused on what we do not have or have not achieved. Celebrate minor accomplishments and progress while having grand visions for future goals.

Viewing another person’s hard work with envy puts you at a disadvantage mentally and leads to destructive behaviors like jealousy and resentment. It is a good idea to practice gratitude which brings joy and appreciation and helps build positive relationships.

Making judgements about other people based on their success or failure in life is often misguided. What you do not know about that person’s path to where they are today cannot be judged by online appearances or what you hear from other sources.